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Monday, July 29, 2013
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Tuesday, July 23, 2013
Invitation to connect on LinkedIn
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Monday, April 30, 2012
So sorry ...got hacked! please disregard last email from me with weird link!!
I changed my password on my gmail account after I realized they emailed all my contacts an ad with a link! I'm hoping this fixes the problem! If anyone knows something else I can do to stop it from happening again, please let me know!
If you get an email from me with a link, probably is fake, esp if I haven't contacted you in a long time! I wouldn't just open up the doors of communication by sending you a commercial:) Hope everyone is well! Dorie McLemore
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Tuesday, September 15, 2009
How to Give a Great Apology...and mean it!
This past week had its share of public humiliation with Congressman Joe Wilson's tyraid during our presidents address on health care, Serena Williams shouts expletives at a line judge during the US Open, and Kanye West stuns the Music community by pulling the mic away from VMA award winner Taylor Swift to talk about how Beyonce was his favorite to win. All three have given their versions of an apology, at times reluctantly for Joe Wilson, who you really don't believe feels sorry. His apology pales in comparison to Kanye who sat on Jay Leno's show in awkward silence saying he was flat wrong, and saying he needs to take a break for a while. Serena's public statement was filled with humility and grace, and yet we have all experienced good and bad apologies personally and maybe even given a few ourselves that we knew we didn't really feel, but it was the right thing to do. What is an apology and how does a person give a sincere one?
The important thing about giving an apology is to own it. You are not doing anyone any good if you don't believe that you could have been wrong, and in the long run the situation will most likely repeat itself.
As a pastor, and a husband, I have seen and given a lot of apologies and the ones that seem to set people free and allow all parties to move on usually begin with the guilty party confessing they were WRONG not that they are sorry.
Chuck Lynch writes for Marriage partnership and explains,
The word sorry isn't an admission of a wrong. While it can mean we did something, it doesn't convey the feeling that the action was wrong. Sorry can mean, "I'm sorry you feel that way," or "I'm sorry you took it that way." This, too, fails to admit the wrongness of the action. It can also mean we're merely sorry we got caught. That's not an admission of wrong either. It's much easier to say, "I'm sorry," than it is to acknowledge the wrongness of the things we've done.
Here are some other steps to apologize from "Perfect Apology:"
A proper apology should include most of the following:
1. a detailed account of the situation
2. acknowledgement of the hurt or damage done
3. taking responsibility for the situation
4. recognition of your role in the event
5. a statement of regret
6. asking for forgiveness
7. a promise that it won't happen again
8. a form of restitution whenever possible
A sincere apology has the power to break the hardest of hearts, Aaron Lazare in Psychology Today talks about how an apology, though seemingly a weaker thing to do, actually takes great strength and is capable of greater power:
A genuine apology offered and accepted is one of the most profound interactions of civilized people. It has the power to restore damaged relationships, be they on a small scale, between two people, such as intimates, or on a grand scale, between groups of people, even nations. If done correctly, an apology can heal humiliation and generate forgiveness.
The hardest words for most of us to say are "I was wrong." It goes against that little voice in our heads that is trying to hold on to some semblance that we could still be right. We unfortunately do ourselves a disservice when we hold ourselves up to a perfect standard where we cannot be wrong. It hinders our ability to lead others, because those following us need to know we are human and fail and that they can fail and move on as well.
When I was getting married I was given a book from a Promise Keepers rally that provided nine words that have served me well these past 12 years, what would happen if all of us could master them?
They are: "I was wrong, I am sorry, please forgive me."
The important thing about giving an apology is to own it. You are not doing anyone any good if you don't believe that you could have been wrong, and in the long run the situation will most likely repeat itself.
As a pastor, and a husband, I have seen and given a lot of apologies and the ones that seem to set people free and allow all parties to move on usually begin with the guilty party confessing they were WRONG not that they are sorry.
Chuck Lynch writes for Marriage partnership and explains,
The word sorry isn't an admission of a wrong. While it can mean we did something, it doesn't convey the feeling that the action was wrong. Sorry can mean, "I'm sorry you feel that way," or "I'm sorry you took it that way." This, too, fails to admit the wrongness of the action. It can also mean we're merely sorry we got caught. That's not an admission of wrong either. It's much easier to say, "I'm sorry," than it is to acknowledge the wrongness of the things we've done.
Here are some other steps to apologize from "Perfect Apology:"
A proper apology should include most of the following:
1. a detailed account of the situation
2. acknowledgement of the hurt or damage done
3. taking responsibility for the situation
4. recognition of your role in the event
5. a statement of regret
6. asking for forgiveness
7. a promise that it won't happen again
8. a form of restitution whenever possible
A sincere apology has the power to break the hardest of hearts, Aaron Lazare in Psychology Today talks about how an apology, though seemingly a weaker thing to do, actually takes great strength and is capable of greater power:
A genuine apology offered and accepted is one of the most profound interactions of civilized people. It has the power to restore damaged relationships, be they on a small scale, between two people, such as intimates, or on a grand scale, between groups of people, even nations. If done correctly, an apology can heal humiliation and generate forgiveness.
The hardest words for most of us to say are "I was wrong." It goes against that little voice in our heads that is trying to hold on to some semblance that we could still be right. We unfortunately do ourselves a disservice when we hold ourselves up to a perfect standard where we cannot be wrong. It hinders our ability to lead others, because those following us need to know we are human and fail and that they can fail and move on as well.
When I was getting married I was given a book from a Promise Keepers rally that provided nine words that have served me well these past 12 years, what would happen if all of us could master them?
They are: "I was wrong, I am sorry, please forgive me."
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